Mondays With Mary

Hello gorgeous people reading our humble little blog!

I’m Mary, Chiqui’s sister from another mister, partner-in-crime, and other half. We’ve long ago dreamed of creating a space for our ineffable souls to express themselves.  

Thus here we are! Welcome to our realm, the realm of the Eternal. Where there is no judgement nor fear nor reservation; only kindness, acceptance and freedom!

The Secret of Happiness is freedom; and the secret of freedom is acceptance.

If some part of your soul has been tugged by those words, then it is not by accident that you’ve found yourself in our blog! Providence always guides us to the right path, if we but surrender to it with the faith of a little child.

My segment is Mondays with Mary and yes, it is inspired by Tuesdays with Morrie haha. Even though I haven’t actually read the book yet! That shall be on my to do list.

You’ll read all about the insights and adventures of Mary, God’s little lamb- from topics on God, life, love and even fashion, food, travel, etc!

You’ll get to know more about me as we go along, so that you have something new to discover about us everyday.

This blog is about celebrating the experiences we get in life… and then uncovering the pearls of wisdom in their midst!

In the Eternal, we shall cultivate our wisdom and depth of character! After all, what is our human existence for anyway, if not to build a deep connection with the Eternal and Divine.

‘We are not human beings going through a spiritual experience; we are Spiritual Beings going through a temporary human experience.’

Let’s go through this experience together!

Think of me as your close friend, confidant, teacher, listener… Whoever you need! I shall bare my soul without embellishment or embarrassment and you can do so too!

I can already foresee it: You and I shall become best friends; where we shall openly share about our innermost thoughts and feelings; where shall develop a relationship of genuine growth and love!

These lovely photos were taken by our friend, Chaz.  :) 

Let’s begin.

For this first entry I’ve ever done in a blog, I shall share a piece of writing I made back when I was still a wide-eyed lass of 18.

I wrote this for our semi-final exam, where we had to perform a skill or talent in front of the whole class. Since I cannot dance or act or sing to save my life, I wrote an essay instead!

And this is what I wanna share to you today…

      Enduring Love

      By Mary Clarisse G. Suan

“Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your heart or burn down your house, you can

never tell.”

It is always a pretty sight to see young couples engaged in a carefree display of affection. It is a touching scene that gives us reason for our optimism, that life is good and the world is unfolding as it should. To love and be loved is the greatest happiness that is achievable on this earth.

But far more beautiful than this scene of young love is the vision of a devoted married couple in the twilight of their years, she is stooping and he is walking with a cane, still warmed by the afterglow of a steadfast, undying affection. This is the love that bears the battle scars of suffering, sacrifice and forgiveness.

Love is not an emotion. It is a decision we make daily and faithfully to constantly put our beloved’s needs above our own, to care for his or her wellbeing unconditionally and unselfishly. It is a commitment, a choice, an act of the will. It is a stubborn determination to keep the flame of love burning no matter what trials or triumphs life throws in our face.You know it is love when the happiness of another person means more to you than your own happiness.

Love is not about intense feelings of infatuation, which are of very short duration. When you allow yourself to be seduced by rampaging emotions, you turn into a sleepwalker marching unstoppably towards the edge of the cliff. Expect to be dashed into a thousand painful pieces by the jagged rocks below. Do not mistake the exciting roller coaster of emotions for love. The exhilaration is not a permanent condition. When the thrill is gone, as it surely will, you will ask in shock, what have I done?

The symbol of true love is the cross. Unless you are willing to accept the pain, you love in vain. The weary husband toiling through the daily grind of work to feed his family; and the tired wife slaving at home to care for the needs of her husband and children, is not a tale of drudgery but a true romantic story.

The challenge of a loving relationship is proved by the passage of time. The friction of daily irritations can dull the sparkle of romance. Call it a successful marriage if it survives her transformation from lovely to lousy, or his conversion from cool to a fool. When she loses her figure and he loses his hair, yet they still find each other attractive, that marriage deserves a snap salute!

An old married couple, survivors of marital combat, was asked:

 how did you stay married for so long? They answered, ‘we just stayed.’

The young lover would demand: love me more and hold me tighter! 

The mature lover would implore: Hold me less but love me longer.

With a hand on my heart,

Mary